Making It Fun

Cause Effective hosted our “It’s A New Year” party last week. A few years ago my board members protested too loudly when we were setting the date for a December holiday get-together, and asked if we could push the annual gathering till January. I complied, and we’ve never looked back.

So here we all were at the lovely Pescatore Restaurant, on the Upper East Side. We invite staff, former staff, board, former board, spouses, and a few long-time organizational “friends” – about 25 were planning to come, when all was said and done. We create nametags, but really, it’s a gang of insiders, most of whom have known each other for years.

The food was delicious, the wine kept flowing, but I was struck, most of all, by the squeals of delight every time someone new walked into the room. The people at this party – board members, mostly – were really glad to see each other, and to see the staff. Spouses got to catch up with each other’s doings, people shared news about kids and jobs and the state of the world – it was a chance to let down our professional divisions and share our commonality as humans.

Three days later, I think we’re all still carrying the glow.

We spend every day doing good in the world, or trying, at least. The warmth in this room was testament to the fact that the human connection, the pleasure in each other’s company, is as important a factor in where we put our energy, in how we choose to do good, as any rationale based on political values about the world.

Congeniality, collegiality, cordiality – not just the “c” list in a thesaurus…

They’re the hidden gems, the glue that makes slogging through the hard times of nonprofit governance/management (and lord knows there’s been a lot of them these past few years!) worthwhile.

Will I Be Noticed?

Remembering back to my college days, I was thinking about one semester when I made the mistake of signing up for an art history class at 8 am. Dark room, big lecture hall, slides, early morning…you get the picture. I just couldn’t stay awake.

I’m sure I was not alone.

And I’m equally sure that no one noticed.

At the last possible moment I had a fit of conscience and dropped the class. Nowadays I might have kept going and learned the material from the Web.

But the question at hand is: who paid attention? Who knew I was there in body but (truly) not in mind?

I’ve come across a few boards lately with that anonymity issue – or perceived anonymity. One board is pretty large, and another is actually quite small – but I can sense in all of them a feeling, on board members’ parts, that nobody will really notice if they’re not coming up to the plate.

So they come to meetings late because they don’t feel essential to the first half (or any) of the meeting. They don’t respond to group emails because they’re just one of the names on the distribution list. They don’t read the materials and they don’t ask the questions, because they know you (or someone, at any rate), has it in hand.

Anything familiar about this?

We’ve all been in situations where we’re happy to have someone else carry the ball. It’s rational – who wouldn’t be?

So what makes people step up to the plate?

In a nutshell – the attention (and praise) of their peers.

Does that happen on autopilot?

No.

It needs to be built, brick-by-brick. In day-by-day groundwork that gets volunteers, especially, to know in their gut that they’re a critical link in the chain.

That if they don’t show up, with full presence, that they’re breaking that promise.

That they’re letting other people down.

And that by their actions – or lack thereof – your clients, your organization, your mission, will lose.

Strategizing…Stargazing

Serendipity.

Sometimes that’s all it takes – a misguided spell-correct – to put a different angle on the task at hand.

In the frenzy of post-holiday emails, I dashed off a note asking someone for help strategizing on an upcoming grant deadline.

Well I guess strategizing isn’t a proper English word, though I certainly use it a lot. So in the infinite wisdom of the spell-checking gods, it was changed, I was going too fast, and there it was.

Need some stargazing with you…

Who wouldn’t respond positively to that invitation?

But beyond the chuckle, it brought me to reflection.

Maybe that’s what’s wrong with our strategizing – we’re too busy plotting a route between the trees.

Maybe what’s really needed is stargazing – lifting up our sights to imagine what’s not right in front of our eyes.

Maybe that’s what’s meant by leadership, what was so paradigm-busting about Steve Jobs (never mind his parsimoniousness in denying employees matching gifts).

The best ideas don’t come from the trees…we all know that.

But do we need to go on a 10-day vision quest to absorb the stars?

I feel a New Year’s resolution coming on (so what if it’s two days late).

More stars.

The forest day-by-day, for sure, but a little more time for the sky.